reality

Reality. Accept it because sometime it might be hurt but sometime it can be so wonderful. Reality after marriage is so freaking me out. Time preparation for the wedding memang tak sabar nak kahwin, but after dah kahwin afraid of commitment. Terlalu banyak we need to face after wedding. From husband, family sendiri, family husband, kerja and etc. List down all memang tak muat.

When I went to kursus kahwin last July, the ustazah said that the main reason of jadinya penceraian is about money, lack of attention and communication with each other. Takde seorang pun di atas bumi, nak gegarkan arash. Tapi hakikatnya, sekarang penceraian sangat banyak and the percentage is increased. Money is not everything, but now everything is money. Maybe some of us tak nampak sebab tak sabar nak kahwin. Be relax and cool. Tenangkan fikiran to think together with me and explore.

Let's go to reality. After get married, maybe for a few months duduk rumah family sendiri dulu. Ada yang lepas kahwin je terus move out to rumah sewa or rumah sendiri. And from here it's all begin.Let's say kalau duduk rumah family pun, we need to have budi bahasa la kan. Don't expect to have everything free and ready. Be rational. Parents won't asked for children's money when they are staying together, but pandai-pandai la kan.Belanja makan once or twice a month. When buy the groceries, bayar kan la sekali when dah dalam same trolley and banyak lagi benda yang jadi that need our attention as a child.

If you stay by your own, a lot if things you and your husband need to catch up. Both salary needed to be added together in order to ensure that the money is sufficient enough.Cost of living is increased and I doubt everything will also increase.

Duit rumah / sewa,

 bil air & elektrik, 

duit kereta, 

duit bagi family, 

duit groceries, 

duit minyak, 

duit toll, 

duit insurans and 

ETC!

*Rasa macam nak pengsan* Tu tak masuk if ada anak lagi. Kalau dah ada anak, all the cost of pampers and makanan baby pun kena masukkan. Nie kalau gabung gaji ramai-ramai pun sentiasa tak cukup.

Kita pernah terlintas ke macam nie??

With big title, the responsibility is bigger and bigger.